--- title: "Journal" url: https://findingher.co.za/findingherjournal/ date: 2023-03-02 modified: 2026-07-30 author: "Kim Grant" type: page lang: en --- # Journal ##### Finding Her Journal [![When Keeping the Peace Means Losing Yourself](https://findingher.co.za/wp-content/uploads/2026/10/Keeping-the-peace3-1-400x250.jpg)](https://findingher.co.za/people-pleasing-boundaries-losing-yourself/) ## [When Keeping the Peace Means Losing Yourself](https://findingher.co.za/people-pleasing-boundaries-losing-yourself/) Oct 20, 2026 | [Disconnection from Self](https://findingher.co.za/category/disconnection-from-self/) When accommodating others becomes a lifelong pattern, we may gradually lose touch with our own needs, opinions and identity. Explore how people-pleasing shapes our boundaries and self-expression, why changing these patterns can feel so difficult, and how awareness can help us begin making room for ourselves again. [read more](https://findingher.co.za/people-pleasing-boundaries-losing-yourself/) [![You Don’t Have to Feel Certain to Trust Yourself](https://findingher.co.za/wp-content/uploads/2026/05/Self-trust2-400x250.jpg)](https://findingher.co.za/you-dont-have-to-feel-certain-to-trust-yourself/) ## [You Don’t Have to Feel Certain to Trust Yourself](https://findingher.co.za/you-dont-have-to-feel-certain-to-trust-yourself/) Sep 17, 2026 | [Reconnection & Alignment](https://findingher.co.za/category/reconnection-alignment/) Self-trust doesn’t mean always knowing the right answer. It means listening to yourself, making the best choice you can and remaining on your own side when uncertainty or doubt appears. [read more](https://findingher.co.za/you-dont-have-to-feel-certain-to-trust-yourself/) [![When Functioning Hides Disconnection](https://findingher.co.za/wp-content/uploads/2026/09/Functioning-1-400x250.png)](https://findingher.co.za/when-functioning-hides-disconnection/) ## [When Functioning Hides Disconnection](https://findingher.co.za/when-functioning-hides-disconnection/) Sep 9, 2026 | [Disconnection from Self](https://findingher.co.za/category/disconnection-from-self/) Disconnection doesn’t always look like falling apart. Sometimes it develops while you are competently managing everything and caring for everyone—until you can no longer hear what is happening inside you. [read more](https://findingher.co.za/when-functioning-hides-disconnection/) [![Can You Still Hear Yourself Amongst All the Noise?](https://findingher.co.za/wp-content/uploads/2026/08/Noise-400x250.png)](https://findingher.co.za/can-you-still-hear-yourself-amongst-all-the-noise/) ## [Can You Still Hear Yourself Amongst All the Noise?](https://findingher.co.za/can-you-still-hear-yourself-amongst-all-the-noise/) Aug 26, 2026 | [Reconnection & Alignment](https://findingher.co.za/category/reconnection-alignment/) We are becoming very good at finding answers and less practised at hearing ourselves. Perhaps reconnection begins by learning to receive outside wisdom without surrendering authority over who we are. [read more](https://findingher.co.za/can-you-still-hear-yourself-amongst-all-the-noise/) [![The Part of You That Already Knows – Reconnecting with Your Intuition](https://findingher.co.za/wp-content/uploads/2026/08/Women-1-400x250.jpg)](https://findingher.co.za/how-to-trust-your-intuition/) ## [The Part of You That Already Knows – Reconnecting with Your Intuition](https://findingher.co.za/how-to-trust-your-intuition/) Aug 17, 2026 | [Reconnection & Alignment](https://findingher.co.za/category/reconnection-alignment/) Your intuition often knows what feels right for you long before your mind can explain it. Explore how we lose touch with this inner guidance—and how we can begin listening again. [read more](https://findingher.co.za/how-to-trust-your-intuition/) [![The Weight We Rarely See: The Invisible Mental Load of Motherhood](https://findingher.co.za/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Self-trust-1-400x250.jpg)](https://findingher.co.za/the-weight-we-rarely-see-the-invisible-mental-load-of-motherhood/) ## [The Weight We Rarely See: The Invisible Mental Load of Motherhood](https://findingher.co.za/the-weight-we-rarely-see-the-invisible-mental-load-of-motherhood/) Aug 4, 2026 | [Identity Shifts & Reinvention](https://findingher.co.za/category/identity-shifts-reinvention/) Motherhood is often described through the tasks we can see. But beneath the appointments, lunchboxes and endless to-do lists lies an invisible landscape of responsibility that few people truly understand. This is a reflection on the mental load mothers carry, and why understanding may be one of the greatest gifts we can offer them. [read more](https://findingher.co.za/the-weight-we-rarely-see-the-invisible-mental-load-of-motherhood/) [![Who Did You Have to Become to Feel Accepted… and What Has It Cost You?](https://findingher.co.za/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/disconnection-400x250.jpg)](https://findingher.co.za/why-we-adapt-to-fit-in/) ## [Who Did You Have to Become to Feel Accepted… and What Has It Cost You?](https://findingher.co.za/why-we-adapt-to-fit-in/) Jul 6, 2026 | [Self-Expression & Visibility](https://findingher.co.za/category/self-expression-visibility/) Why do so many women slowly lose touch with themselves? This reflection explores how our deep need to belong shapes the ways we adapt, the beliefs we quietly form, and how those adaptations can become the identities we unknowingly carry into adulthood. [read more](https://findingher.co.za/why-we-adapt-to-fit-in/) [![Why Do We Often Recognise Grief in Loss, But Not in Change?](https://findingher.co.za/wp-content/uploads/2026/04/Self-trust-1-400x250.jpg)](https://findingher.co.za/why-do-we-often-recognise-grief-in-loss-but-not-in-change/) ## [Why Do We Often Recognise Grief in Loss, But Not in Change?](https://findingher.co.za/why-do-we-often-recognise-grief-in-loss-but-not-in-change/) Jun 17, 2026 | [Identity Shifts & Reinvention](https://findingher.co.za/category/identity-shifts-reinvention/) We often recognise grief in loss, but not in change. Yet many seasons of uncertainty, reinvention, and personal growth carry their own quiet grief. What if feeling stuck isn’t a sign that something is wrong, but a sign that something is ending? [read more](https://findingher.co.za/why-do-we-often-recognise-grief-in-loss-but-not-in-change/) [![Why Do I Overthink Everything? Understanding Overthinking, Anxiety, and Why You Still Feel Unclear](https://findingher.co.za/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/Overthinking-2-400x250.jpg)](https://findingher.co.za/why-do-i-overthink-everything/) ## [Why Do I Overthink Everything? Understanding Overthinking, Anxiety, and Why You Still Feel Unclear](https://findingher.co.za/why-do-i-overthink-everything/) Jun 5, 2026 | [Disconnection from Self](https://findingher.co.za/category/disconnection-from-self/) I’m an overthinker, so I know exactly how this feels. For much of my life, I wasn’t even aware I was doing it. I just… [read more](https://findingher.co.za/why-do-i-overthink-everything/) [![Let’s talk about shame!](https://findingher.co.za/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/women-looking-down-400x250.jpg)](https://findingher.co.za/lets-talk-about-shame/) ## [Let’s talk about shame!](https://findingher.co.za/lets-talk-about-shame/) Sep 3, 2025 | [Coaching for women](https://findingher.co.za/category/uncategorized/coaching-for-women/) I had a conversation last night with a group of beautiful women and in our conversations the topic of shame came up…. [read more](https://findingher.co.za/lets-talk-about-shame/) ### [Kind words](https://findingher.co.za/testimonials/) ## Ilse Joubert | South Africa Jen has the exceptional gift of connecting very deeply and naturally with people, meeting them exactly where they are. Her personality makes you feel safe and familiar almost immediately, as though you have known each other for much longer than you actually have. She has the wisdom and insight of an old soul — the ability to see right through the chaos, identify the core issues, and find the words to help you understand how to address them. In just a few sessions, she has used more techniques and tools than I have experienced with any psychologist before. What makes her approach so special, though, is that you can genuinely feel that she is interested and that she truly cares. And this isn’t simply part of her professional role — it is authentically who she is in her everyday life. She is a warm, honest and gentle guide. Her calming presence leaves you feeling more grounded and more in control, while also helping you develop greater compassion and understanding for yourself. ## Marina Garcia de Mateo |South Africa Jennifer has guided me through the rough part of finding myself again after becoming a mum. My desire to carry on with my professional life while being a present mother for my child was conflicting with some new emotions that were emerging. It’s easy to get lost if you don’t find the right words or the way to untangle the ‘new you’. Jennifer’s guidance to unveil my new vision was beyond useful. She allows space for something nice to come out, she listens and brings the right questions when needed. I recommend Jennifer as a women’s coach. Thanks Jen ## Nina Baron | South Africa I wholeheartedly recommend Jennifer as a truly exceptional life coach who has made an immeasurable difference in my life. Jen possesses a rare combination of empathy, wisdom and the ability to listen attentively without any judgement. Jen created a safe environment for me to be completely honest. Her thought-provoking questions allowed me to gain profound insight into the issues I was dealing with. Through her guidance I developed a clearer understanding of how to approach difficulties. If you are seeking a life coach who will genuinely care about your success and well-being, provide invaluable guidance, and empower you to become the best version of yourself, I wholeheartedly endorse Jen. She’s made all the difference in my life and I have no doubt that she will do the same for each one of her clients. Big thank you Jen. [Read more testimonials](https://findingher.co.za/testimonials/) ## I offer one on one coaching sessions ### Book a free call to find out more [Book your call](https://findingher.co.za/contact/) ### Let’s have a conversation Book a free 30 min call [Book your call](https://calendly.com/findingher) Accreditations [![](https://findingher.co.za/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/WLCT-badge-high-res-1.png)](https://marthabeck.com/) [![](https://findingher.co.za/wp-content/uploads/2022/11/associate-certified-coach-acc2.png)](https://coachingfederation.org/) ### Got questions? 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